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Monitoring your child's internet activity

I just wanted to get a general consensus on how parents feel about monitoring your child's internet activity. Is it right or wrong? Is it an invasion of their privacy? With all the threats that are present on the internet, is only monitoring who their friends are on their messenger or Facebook enough? Tell me what you think about using programs like Net Nanny or keyloggers, are they wrong to use?
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For me, if they are under 18, under my roof, on my computer using the Internet connection I pay for, that would be something they would have to agree to if they want to be online. (Actually more like under 16 I guess).
Not that I would be checking every hour, but I would check less often the older they got.
There is nothing wrong with using them, unfortunately they are a necessary part of life in this age. Better to be cautious then find out your kid took off to Ontario to meet their new "little friend".
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For me, if they are under 18, under my roof, on my computer using the Internet connection I pay for, that would be something they would have to agree to if they want to be online. (Actually more like under 16 I guess).
Not that I would be checking every hour, but I would check less often the older they got.
There is nothing wrong with using them, unfortunately they are a necessary part of life in this age. Better to be cautious then find out your kid took off to Ontario to meet their new "little friend".


i agree 100%
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Exactly. My son is well aware that he has no expectation of privacy when it comes to computer usage. I don't use net nanny or anything like that, I just wander by as he uses the computer to see what he's doing. He's also got a daily limit, so he tends to go straight to the one or two games he plays. We also have regular discussions on internet safety, how much information is too much etc.
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I couldn't agree more with everybody, however that being said teenagers have become very good at hiding where they have been on a computer. They use thing like msn and hotmail to talk back and forth with each other, and most know the ins and outs of a computer very well. My rule of thumb is if I find that they have deleted their browsing history, then they are off the computer for what is remaining in that month. I don't want to appear as an over protective private detective, but when it comes to your kids you can never be too safe. The internet is a very dangerous place when it is used carelessly!
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I play online games and participate in chats online... My daughter is only 6 so the internet she does use for now, she's usually sitting on my lap or I'm right be hind her making dinner. When my kids are older, I will absolutely monitor what they do. I trust my children not to do the wrong thing and not to violate my trust, but let's be honest; they can be pretty easily manipulated. People who prey on children have made an art out of it, and even the best behaved most trust-able kids can make wrong decisions on the premise of finding love.
-I've seen first hand some terrible things given that I'm fairly active online. i love my daughter and son too much not to monitor what they do.
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So do you think that it's necessary to tell the child they are being monitored, and to what extent they are being monitored?
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My step daughter who is 13 (lives with her mother), in my opinion has far too much freedom online as well as texting with her own phone. She is on Facebook, MSN and lord knows what else. I see posts and pictures she puts on Facebook and the pictures, well....Let's just say she's lucky she's not my 13 yr old daughter living in my house. She has had her entire address listed, she answers all of those "About Me" questionaires, posts comments like FML etc. as well as posts from time to time to "text me" with her number listed.

In my opinion here is a young girl out to get herself into trouble if her mother doesn't do something. But unfortunately she has full custody and anything I or my husband says is crap.

Damn right I think children should be monitored with their online usage. Kids in this day and age are given way too much freedom and unfortunately with today's technology it's getting more difficult to keep them safe. When we were kids we only had the telephone and it was conveniently attatched to the kitchen wall!!!

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I've sat down and discussed it with my son (he's 15). I do think it's good to let your child know that they are being monitored...I'm not out to trap him, I just want to keep him safe.
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Most teenagers can't handle freedom! Let them know that you are keeping a close eye on them. Tell them it's not because you want to make their life difficult or hard, it's just that you want to keep them safe....Your explanation won't mean a hill of beans to them right now, but when they get older they may look back and understand just why!
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Most teenagers can't handle freedom! Let them know that you are keeping a close eye on them. Tell them it's not because you want to make their life difficult or hard, it's just that you want to keep them safe....Your explanation won't mean a hill of beans to them right now, but when they get older they may look back and understand just why!
I agree but there needs to be balance. If you start emailing people and deleting messages (unless they are negative in some way) that is when it is abused!! Monitering your child is not only O.K it should be the norm. Sites like facebook, Myspace etc where they can post pics and anyone can see them are especially important.
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I agree but there needs to be balance. If you start emailing people and deleting messages (unless they are negative in some way) that is when it is abused!! Monitering your child is not only O.K it should be the norm. Sites like facebook, Myspace etc where they can post pics and anyone can see them are especially important.
Why did you quote me? I didn't say anything about emailing people or deleting messages!
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Why did you quote me? I didn't say anything about emailing people or deleting messages!
LOL, sorry I was agreeing with what you said and than I just added further. I suppose I should have separated my point. Sorry for that.
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I'm not monitoring my kids. I told my daughter that there is a lot of nasty stuff on the internet as well as weird people. I gave her her own responsibility and from that point on if she is not sure if a website is 'safe' or a game too violent she will ask me. Eventually your child is home alone, or alone on the internet and I'd rather have them make the right decision on their own at that point in time. Not when or because I am there.
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I monitor my kids for sure! There is too much out there in cyber space.....so much to worry about. My kids are limited to what sites they are allowed to be on and they are well aware if they stray they lose computer privliges. I allow them on facebook and msn but monitor their friends lists and I have their passwords. I don't see it as an invasion of privacy at all....I see it as protecting my children!
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Things like Facebook and Myspace are dangerous for children. When they start listing their phone numbers, addresses, pictures, etc. Makes me rage just thinking about it.
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