PA
07-16-2008, 03:11 PM
Just wondering what my options are when it comes to my year and a half old daughter.
Her mother and her live out west. I left to come back home for work related reasons (To Saint John) She was suppose to come down at a later date, Once I got set up with an apartment and all that good stuff. To make a long story short. She decided not to move here. She figured she would stay there and become a little party animal. When I say party animal I mean PARTY ANIMAL. Sleeping with guys. Drinking, drugs etc etc. I know this because mutual friends of ours have told me this. This all started within the first week after I left.
Not to mention. I have pictures that she posted on facebook of 2 different guys laying on my bed holding my daughter. Do you get the point??
Well this all happened over a year ago. During the time that I have been gone, My mother had access (my second debit card) for my bank account. There was always money in there. Whenever my daughter needed anything my mother would call me and I would tell her to take it out of my account. Over the last year I have bought her everything from a new crib to a new car seat (my ex had access to my account but it was removed after seeing charges on there from the local bar)
My EX does not work. She has no education (grade 9 I think) She lives on walfare and relies on it. She refuses to work. She drinks. She does drugs. She doesn't even have a stable home!! She travels back and forth from her new boyfriends to my mothers house every week. She got kicked out of low income housing for not paying her bills. Her lights got shut off so they evicted her.
Now onto the new boyfriend. Her new boyfriend is her ex bestfriends ex.. ( Still with me? lol ) Her ex bestfriend just had a baby from this guy. ( oh did I mention that my ex is now 5 months pregnant with this guys baby too!!! ??? ) Incase you are confused, This is not a Jerry Springer episode this is my life as it sits now lol.
I have been fighting to see my daughter. She will not let her travel down here to see me. All she keeps doing is blaming me for leaving. But the whole thing was, was that she was coming down in a couple of months and she changed her mind. But somehow this is all my fault and I am the ( for lack of a better term ) "dead beat dad"? as she claims.
There is no working stuff out with my ex. Due to her lack of education, it is very hard to have a decent conversation with her. Its like talking to a child. She lies to much and tells so many stories. Its almost like she gets caught up in a little fantasy world that she created in her head and starts to believe all the lies and bull**** stories she tells.
She thinks she knows everything. She always says hurtfull things to me about my daughter. She throws stuff in my face all the time. I.E her new boyfriend is a better father then I will ever be etc etc. Keep in mind. Her new boyfriend also has 3 other kids from 3 other girls that he refuses to have anything to do with. (So if you are keeping track that is 4 kids in total for this guy.
I could probably write you a whole movie script here but ill end it here.
What are my options? I would love to have full custody because I do not believe that my daughter is in a safe enviorment.
Any adivce???
Her mother and her live out west. I left to come back home for work related reasons (To Saint John) She was suppose to come down at a later date, Once I got set up with an apartment and all that good stuff. To make a long story short. She decided not to move here. She figured she would stay there and become a little party animal. When I say party animal I mean PARTY ANIMAL. Sleeping with guys. Drinking, drugs etc etc. I know this because mutual friends of ours have told me this. This all started within the first week after I left.
Not to mention. I have pictures that she posted on facebook of 2 different guys laying on my bed holding my daughter. Do you get the point??
Well this all happened over a year ago. During the time that I have been gone, My mother had access (my second debit card) for my bank account. There was always money in there. Whenever my daughter needed anything my mother would call me and I would tell her to take it out of my account. Over the last year I have bought her everything from a new crib to a new car seat (my ex had access to my account but it was removed after seeing charges on there from the local bar)
My EX does not work. She has no education (grade 9 I think) She lives on walfare and relies on it. She refuses to work. She drinks. She does drugs. She doesn't even have a stable home!! She travels back and forth from her new boyfriends to my mothers house every week. She got kicked out of low income housing for not paying her bills. Her lights got shut off so they evicted her.
Now onto the new boyfriend. Her new boyfriend is her ex bestfriends ex.. ( Still with me? lol ) Her ex bestfriend just had a baby from this guy. ( oh did I mention that my ex is now 5 months pregnant with this guys baby too!!! ??? ) Incase you are confused, This is not a Jerry Springer episode this is my life as it sits now lol.
I have been fighting to see my daughter. She will not let her travel down here to see me. All she keeps doing is blaming me for leaving. But the whole thing was, was that she was coming down in a couple of months and she changed her mind. But somehow this is all my fault and I am the ( for lack of a better term ) "dead beat dad"? as she claims.
There is no working stuff out with my ex. Due to her lack of education, it is very hard to have a decent conversation with her. Its like talking to a child. She lies to much and tells so many stories. Its almost like she gets caught up in a little fantasy world that she created in her head and starts to believe all the lies and bull**** stories she tells.
She thinks she knows everything. She always says hurtfull things to me about my daughter. She throws stuff in my face all the time. I.E her new boyfriend is a better father then I will ever be etc etc. Keep in mind. Her new boyfriend also has 3 other kids from 3 other girls that he refuses to have anything to do with. (So if you are keeping track that is 4 kids in total for this guy.
I could probably write you a whole movie script here but ill end it here.
What are my options? I would love to have full custody because I do not believe that my daughter is in a safe enviorment.
Any adivce???