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Flaxie
02-19-2008, 07:27 AM
I have a troubled 15 year old daughter 2 weeks ago she took an overdose of pain killers, we almost lost her. Since this happened she has been in hospital and will be for another 4-5 weeks. She spent 5 days in ICU.

I am telling you this because after this happened everyone around her has been trying to figure out the reasoning behind her actions.

She is in grade nine at Moncton High. Some of the children there have been tormenting her. The put razor blades and broken glass in her desk and on it. The have left her notes telling her she should just kill herself and make everyone's life better. She has been taunted in the halls and has been spit on.
Now she went to the guidance councelor with this and nothing was esculated to the principle.

My daughter is a cutter and has scars up and down her arms and legs. So I do know why she has been targeted. I know these children could not have completely understood how their actions would impact my daughter. I know that they were trying to get a reaction out of her and were having fun at her expense.

Please take the time to educate your children about bullying and the effects it has on the recipient. My daughter will be recovering from this for a very very long time.

sanstu
02-19-2008, 07:43 AM
Flaxie, I'm so sorry for the pain your family is presently experiencing. Your daughter is entitled to an education free from the B.S directed at her. As parents tend to justify the horrible actions of their " little angels" it becomes very difficult to stop bullying. Either you or an advocate for your daughter need to deal directly with the principal or district office on this matter.

Big, big hugs to you and your daughter, you both will be in my thoughts.

angelaa
02-19-2008, 07:47 AM
I will Keep Her and Your Family in My Prayers. I lost my Husband to Suicide, It is a very Hard Subject to Comprehend whether the Person Survives or not, There is a huge combination of factors that go along with it. Good Luck to You all in getting Your Daughter the Proper Care She needs.

Woofer
02-19-2008, 07:47 AM
Flaxie, I'm so sorry for the pain your family is presently experiencing. Your daughter is entitled to an education free from the B.S directed at her. As parents tend to justify the horrible actions of their " little angels" it becomes very difficult to stop bullying. Either you or an advocate for your daughter need to deal directly with the principal or district office on this matter.

Big, big hugs to you and your daughter, you both will be in my thoughts.



i agree and hope everything works out great in the future.

lizard_lover
02-19-2008, 09:15 AM
Flaxie this hit a deep hard spot for me. I need to learn not to read these at work.
From age 12-19 I cut myself as well. My feet, legs, stomach, arms, and every possibly imaginable area. I overdosed on 2 bottles of pills when I was in grade 10, and was taken to the hospital. Luckily for me (now i did not think so at the time) the 2 different pills I took counteracted each other and I was not killed from it, but did spend some quality time with doctors and a hospital bed.
I was also picked on. I had my face smashed against my locker almost everytime I went to get books, people spit on me too, and it never got to the extent of having glass and razor blades put in my desk, but i was told to kill myself. I posted a thread on a girl who is getting at me lately and she told me last night the reason why my step father beat me half to death was because I was a b**** and unwanted....
I do not know if bullying will ever stop, but I so hope it will. I dealt with rapes and being beat from family, but it was the bullying at school that drove me over the deep end and made me want to kill myself.
Flaxie, I hope and pray so much for you and your daughter, you will be kept in thought very close to my heart. Please keep us updated, and if you need any help on how to help yourself and your daughter cope, I have some information that may be useful...I know right now she probably does not want to be lectured or to see any "specialists", but when she is ready, and someday she will be, you will both be grateful that her help is right around every corner.

Mandi
02-19-2008, 10:06 AM
Every school should have bullying assemblies! Find out why kids do it, and bring every one to the same 'level'. Bullying actually really really scares me... My baby girl goes to school this year, and I'm worried about it. I really can't believe that parents let this go on, and the lack of help from the school is just disgusting. :( I hope every thing works out for your daughter... Kids can be so cruel.

redsheila2006
02-19-2008, 10:34 AM
I am so sorry to hear of your famalies pain and I feel so bad for your daughter.I was bullied when I was younger by a group of girls for a long time. Lucky for me it only happend for a year and then we moved.Kids don't realize what they are doing when they bully other kids. I hope your daughter is OK and I will pray for you and your family.You are right there are too many people out there getting bullied so much at school and end up trying to take their life.You are lucky because your daughter survived, but something has too be done before its too late. If your a parent try and see what your kids are up too and be aware.

inuit
02-19-2008, 07:06 PM
I feel your pain. My kids were picked on at school too and no matter how often I went ther and complained it never stopped. My son tried to kill himself at school. Still nothing was done. Yhe school told me to keep him home and homeschool him. I found a christian (even though I did not belong to that church) school and enrolled my sons there. That helped. Then home schooling and ged. I would have loved to have them graduate from high school but living was more important. Both have since gotten a post secondry education. It just took a little longer. So there is hope. I wish you well. Hugs.

Flaxie
02-20-2008, 07:03 AM
Thank you all for your thoughts and prayers. My daughter is in a child psychiatric ward right now and will remain there for at least 4-5 weeks maybe longer. They are doing a full assessment on her. We have been in touch with the principle and the guidance counselor. My daughter does not want the kids at school to know why she is in hospital which makes it a little more difficult when dealing with the school system about this. Needless to say she will not be going back to that school.
Please continue to keep her in your prayers. We have a long road ahead before she will be able to move past this.

lizard_lover
02-20-2008, 09:16 AM
Flaxie this is so sad. Bullies rule the school...so to speak. They do have a lot of assemblies on bullying (well they did 3 years ago when I was still there) but it does not help. those that do the bullying just dont even pay attention...I do not think there is a way to stop them, until they grow up and mature. I am glad to hear she will not be going back, because it unfortunately would just be worse. I will hope and pray for you every day until she gets out, and from there will continue to pray and hope she gets well.

lizard_lover
02-20-2008, 09:23 AM
and just to show how much the school "cares", I had a friend who was beat repeatedly by her father...she used to come to school covered in blood stains and bruises. He did not care, and went so far as throwing her down some stairs while she was talking to me on the phone. One day at school she gave me her rings. said she would no longer need them. This scared me so bad because she had recently started to cut herself. My other friend and I called the police on her father. They said because we did not know the address they could not help her. Anyways later that day she did something in a class and the teacher wanted her to go home. We begged and pleaded with the principal and guidance councellors to not call her father, and they KNEW from previous history he was abusive. They called him anyways. He got to the school, walked in the front door, and in front of the guidance councellors grabbed my friend my her upper arm, started calling her a useless piece of **** for making him get out of bed to come get her, and dragged her out. She screamed she did not want to go. The teachers made her leave. We never saw her again either. Her parents shipped her off that night. I miss her greatly and do not even know if she is alive now.

Just goes to show you really how much school authorities give 2 craps about their students.

FutureChief88
02-20-2008, 10:26 AM
My 5 year old is being bullied.. or so it seems. She doesnt seem to care, but i do of course. She is only 5. This older boy is trying to exclude her from playing with other kids.. and her cousin. Tells her that santa and the easter bunny and such is not real.. and beats up her cousin. He teases her and everything. She is VERY outspoken .. And therefroe i believe she stands up for herself.. but this is inexcusable to me. and this child is in ANOTHER class from her. I have spoken with his teacher.. who insists that it will not continue.. and i understand she cant watch them all the time.. but between all 3 of the kindergarten teachers.. these sorts of things should not be happening..

As the overprotective mother that i am.. I have this ugre to go handle it myself.. (and i am sure people would frown on a 23 year old "handling" a 5 year old), but you just feel so helpless.. My poor child.. just wants to go to school to learn..

This is becoming a HUGE problem.

flaxie.. I COMPLETELY feel for you.. I as well used to be a "cutter".. and unfortunately have been down the road your daughter has chosen many times as well. I am not sure the "thoughts" ever go away.. But i guess life gets a bit easier to deal with? I am not even sure of that ..

My thoughts and Prayers are with you and your family. I wish your daughter a full physical and mental recovery!

sanstu
02-20-2008, 10:31 AM
Thank you all for your thoughts and prayers. My daughter is in a child psychiatric ward right now and will remain there for at least 4-5 weeks maybe longer. They are doing a full assessment on her. We have been in touch with the principle and the guidance counselor. My daughter does not want the kids at school to know why she is in hospital which makes it a little more difficult when dealing with the school system about this. Needless to say she will not be going back to that school.
Please continue to keep her in your prayers. We have a long road ahead before she will be able to move past this.
The staff is wonderful on CAPU. Hopefully your daughter will accept the guidance they will offer to her. Remember to take care of yourself Flaxie. You're both in my thoughts.